A Poison Called Insecurity

Insecurity is the root of so much heartache in this world, and although it is a choice to be made rather than a condition to live with, so many girls can't seem to find the fine line between insecurity and over-confidence, both of which are a poison that can be utterly and completely detrimental to so many aspects of their lives.

It's no secret that people who are insecure often over-compensate by either wearing flashy or revealing clothing, being condescending, or allowing themselves to have such a low level of self-respect that they allow their bodies to be used and abused, with no regard for their own worth.

It's so sad to see girls who could be beautiful destroy themselves by wearing too much makeup or dressing immodestly to get attention when in fact, they are only distracting people from their natural beauty that comes from within. Why does this world encourage getting attention through whatever means is easiest? It's gut-wrenching to see someone act out for bad attention, rather than good attention.

Although it's hard to positively respond to difficult (or just plain condescending) people, it's important to remember that if they feel the need to bring you down, it's most likely because of their own insecurity. Remember: Confidence is silent... Insecurities are loud.

It's always heart-breaking to see a girl who has so much to give throw away her own self-worth because she doesn't view her body as the temple the Lord created it to be. Rather it be through self-harm or allowing herself to stay in a physically abusive relationship (or emotional, for that matter), if a girl doesn't value herself, she can't demand the kind of respect she deserves.

I've decided that the fine line between insecurity and over-confidence is like walking a tightrope. It's not always easy. It's a delicate balance. But even though it's hard, the pressure is good for you. It molds you. It shapes you. It also gets easier with practice.

Insecurity hurts you in every aspect of your life. Don't let it consume you.

1 Corinthians 15:33 tells us that "bad company corrupts good character," and although we don't usually think of this in connection to the problem of insecurity, I think it applies because if girls surround themselves with people who are also insecure or with people who constantly tear them down and bring out the worst in them, it makes it almost impossible to dig themselves out of the dark pit of insecurity. When you surround yourself with strong, independent, confident women, it makes you want to be the same way. It's contagious.

Take this challenge with me this week: Actively fight the poison called insecurity by surrounding yourself with people who build you up, make you better, and teach you what it means to love not only others, but yourself for who God made you.

Don't let insecurity ruin the {inner and outer} beauty you were born with.